Helping Others While Helping Ourselves

One of the things we are often asked about is how to help other people with their mental or physical health while dealing with our own. There is no doubt that this can be a complicated situation. As humans, when we care about someone, whether it be a friend, family member, or signficant other, we often want to do everything we can to help them. This can cause frustration and disappointment for everyone involved.

One of my friends and I often have this problem. We both want to help each other and make things better for the other. However, we have our own issues that we have to deal with as well. This can lead to neither one of us feeling the best or getting the help we actually need. It can also cause us to argue, which neither of us wants to do. We end up hurting each other, which in turn, also hurts ourselves.

One of the biggest things we have found that can help is communication. When we aren't feeling well, or are feeling frustrated with things, it can be hard to convey our actual feelings and emotions. It causes problems between us. So although we can't always do it at the time, we are learning to talk more about what is really going on. It creates a better understanding and truly helps things between us. While we do still have our arguments (everyone does), learning to communicate has reduced them.

It's not easy for either of us to put ourselves first. In fact, it's not easy for a lot of people. But it is super important and something that is essential to maintaining a friendship or any kind of relationship. There is nothing wrong with helping people, in fact, it's a great trait to have. However, how can we help others if we don't help ourselves?

Ultimately, it's a balance. It's a balance of making sure you are taking care of yourself while you help others. It's a matter of keeping the lines of communication open. It's a matter of knowing how much you truly care about each other. It's not always gonna be easy, but ultimately, it's worth it.

"You get into the biggest fights with the people you care about the most, because they are the relationships worth fighting for." ~Wiz Khalifa